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The Three Questions To Ask Yourself If You Want To Figure Out Your Next Step In Life


Do you ever find yourself sitting in a cubicle, bored out of your mind at work thinking, “this is just not how I pictured it”!? Figuring out the next step out of this rut is HARD. 

Did you ever realize that work actually takes up the majority of our life? OMG. The forty hour work week seems like the abnormal nowadays, while 50-60 feels like the new normal. That’s LITERALLY, YEARS of our life working! I can’t. 

Last week, I wrote about getting burnt out in our 20’s and how to combat that, something I will forever be refining. Yet, it also got me thinking: would we feel LESS burnt out if we were in jobs we loved? Or would the burn out just be less … miserable? 

I feel like its VERY RARE (no matter how the IG models make it look) that someone is able to barely work and make the kind of money that allows you to still afford to buy PSLs at Starbucks. Let alone save to buy a home. 

Is it possible to find a job that you love, or at least can bear to do, while not completely hating 40, I mean 50/60, hours a week? 

What I’ve Learned & How I Got Unstuck In Life

At times I’ve rationalized the different jobs that I’ve hated by the money, or the people around me. I’ve learned that at least for me – the money satisfaction (unless it’s in a larger quantity than I have yet to receive) doesn’t last for long, and co-workers have the opportunity to move on. So I really needed to work finding something I enjoyed, because the 8+ hours a day I’d be spending at the office would be all I had to rely on.

If you read my post about finding a hobby as an adult  that was really my first step in learning a few things about myself:

  1. Having other people around me really fills me up and…
  2. I need creativity in my life

Working at a corporate job (which I still am), I wasn’t getting these two on a regular basis, which left me feeling sooo stuck for so long.

For Me, It Wasn’t About My Life Purpose – Just Feeling Unstuck

So how the heck can you figure out what you want to do with your life? How can you get unstuck!? I personally believe that you DON’T only have one life purpose and that you need to search for that purpose. Instead, I believe that your life ‘purpose’ can change over time and so at least for me, that’s not what I search for right now. I do believe in living WITH purpose towards a next step.

Whether you are just entering the workforce or unhappy in your current situation, ask yourself these three questions to get yourself on your way to being happier in your job. 

What Will You Get Out Of These Three Questions? 

Even if you can’t get your “dream job” tomorrow, that’s ok! If you can figure out where you want to go, you can also understand the steps you need to get there. 

I find myself stressed and anxious if I am not living my life with some sort of purpose towards next steps. Or else, I feel so lost!

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Here Are Three Questions That Will Help You Figure Out Your Next Step & What To Do With Your Life

1. What Do You Enjoy Doing So Much That You Forget About Everything Else? 

What do you enjoy doing so much that you forget to check Instagram or that hot guy who was supposed to text you back? 

I am the most distractable person. Literally. I have a blocker on my computer that helps me not check Facebook or email so I can focus even for like, 20 minutes. A telltale sign that I really enjoy something is if I genuinely don’t get distracted because I’m able to stay that in the moment.

For me, I realized I had this with blogging and writing. Even after I had worked out, gone to the office for an 11 hour day, I still genuinely get excited to open my computer and work on this. That’s how I knew it would be sustainable and a passion project.

If you don’t have this for yourself right now, try something new. And it doesn’t have to be something alone, if you feel like you get your energy from other people, think about what you could do that

2. What Do You Like About Number 1? 

If you find something that you like, try and think about why you like that particular thing. For me, I always knew that I felt filled up and happiest when I’m around other people, it’s why my corporate job is very VERY social.

It was important for me to know that I needed to fill myself up with activities and hobbies that are around other people, and if I were to make a change I would need these two things: creativity and people.

Blogging allows me to be outside, taking photos, making friends with other bloggers, etc. I love writing because it allows me to express what’s on my mind and be creative!

Here are some quick questions you can ask yourself to figure out what you actually like in the first place.

  • What gives you energy? When you’re tired, what is the first thing you want to do?
  • When you’re burnt out, what refreshes you?
  • When’s the last time you forgot about your phone? What were you doing?

3. What Jobs And Next Steps Embody These Qualities?

I don’t believe that you need to go searching for your purpose right now. I DO believe that you should be able to find a next step that embodies qualities that make you happy.

The best advice I can give is: network. Once you’ve identified the types of things that bring you JOY and HAPPINESS, talk to different people in different professions and find out different jobs that even exist!

When I was in college, I thought jobs were so black and white. I never realized the types of different jobs that people could have.

The best thing I did was network – because it REALLY helped me figure out the wide variety of things I could do.

Feeling stuck or lost in life? Here are three questions to ask yourself when figuring out what to do with your life and your next step. Figure Out Your Next Step, Get Unstuck, Find Your Purpose

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  1. Love, love, love these questions! This is the sort of thing I’ve really been focusing on lately. I have such passion for creating, and now that I’m starting to become more noticed, I feel like it’s the right time to really dive head first into my dreams and give it everything I’ve got. I won’t know until I try!

    • Thats so amazing! I totally agree that the focus is so hard to find, you know? You don’t really become ‘great’ at anything by just doing it a tiny bit!

  2. This is perfect! I’ve been thinking about whether my decision to return back to blogging was the right one. Just another day I realized that it was because I am so passionate about it and I often forget about everything else when I write.

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